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When dating online, you think in ‘types’ – that is, you consider each trait and work out if you want to date the type of person that would be attracted to that.Once the sole preserve of people who exist entirely on the internet for one reason or another, it has steadily and stealthily infiltrated the lives of Normal People.No longer are your recommended matches likely to be living in their parent’s basement at 42, nor do most of them have a profile picture that’s an awkwardly posed topless selfie in the bathroom mirror, socks visibly pulled up towards greying underwear.While the fact in itself that we lie online is unsurprising (would YOU show your dating profile to your friends?), what’s much more interesting is what we lie about.Moving on, internet dating has experienced something of a renaissance recently; it’s even been claimed that one in five marriages across the world started online. The temptation to smooth out the 'rough bits' in our personal profile with some innocuous white lies is irresistible. In my own online dating experience I would always have long pleasant chats with a series of charming men only to balk at the idea of meeting them in person.So if that’s the case and it’s popular and successful, what’s the problem? I've never met up with anyone off the back of a dating site. It’s probably because my grasp of French experimental psych-pop is not nearly as exhaustive as it would seem when Google is but a tab away, nor is my skin as flawless as the flattering filter on my camera might suggest.From Bebo through to My Space, Facebook, Linked In, Twitter and beyond, I’ve used the whole range of tricks from flattering camera angles to (tragically) writing easily Google-able ‘inspirational quotes’ in my profile in my attempts to appear like a rounded and likeable individual. I probably shouldn't admit this, then, but it comes as no surprise to me that the results of a recent survey reveal that 57 per cent of people have lied on their online dating profiles.
According to the survey of 3,000 adults, by uk, nearly half the men asked have lied about their job or salary in order to improve their chances at finding love; meanwhile almost half of women lied about their weight or body shape. When you fill out an online profile for anything, you’re doing it with the intended audience in mind, or at least you should be if you’re playing the game smartly. This is particularly true in online dating, where you’re essentially describing your most desirable self, but specifically angled in such a way to attract your ideal partner.In my dating profile, I pretended to have a passion for swanky cocktail bars in SW1 when actually I'd rather have a pint down the local pub.