Speed dating how to organize
Three others cited sickness and a work obligation, and one was a no-show. When I consider why the concept attracted me so, and look back at the several men I met and dated—briefly—while serving as EO, it becomes clearer.This is when life takes a funny (in hindsight) turn, leaving me with too many men. And although the men were as friendly and talkative as I had hoped they would be, the majority of them thought it appropriate to tell their dates that they were attending for free. Let me tell you, the women had a hard time seeing my side of this story. I was a fan of the eight-minute date because that is what worked for me.
My Halloween-themed “Dating’s Not So Scary Party” at a brewery was well-attended and lively, but the management was soured by the unimpressive amount of beer purchased by participants. I asked friends and colleagues to alert their more distinguished single male friends. This is the point where I should have apologized to My Girls and cancelled the event.
Even though I did get a match, if anyone asks what I thought of the whole experience, I will inform them that I would not do it again as the men were there under false pretense, and certainly not with yourself as the Event Coordinator.” Clearly, my well-intended enthusiasm was not well received, despite the fact that this woman actually got a date out of it. Whether you speed date or slow date, you will likely get what you expect.
“According to the men that I spoke with, they all informed me that they were recruited by you,” one woman wrote me after the event. At that time, as a single parent of two kids and two dogs, with a full-time job and a home to run, a speed date was all I could manage; all I could commit to.
“This indicates to me that they were not seriously looking to meet anyone and they were just there because it was a free evening. To those of you newly looking, or still looking, or in the midst of packing up your bells and staplers, I say: Keep an open mind.
Example: “Please plan an event that will enable me, a 56-year-old woman, to participate in the speed dating. I just turned 40 and after reading the age group for your event I was offended.” Over 40 myself, I empathized and promised these people—my people—that I would be the one to turn this ship around. Yes, typing it out makes it sound so much worse than it did in my head, but I wanted so much for this event to happen.
I want to be honest and therefore will not crash the event planned for 47-year-olds.” Another woman wrote, “Please tell me what it is wrong with being over 35? I found another “olde taverne” type setting and arranged an event for the 42 to 54 age range. Offering free coupons meant this event would be pro bono for me—it would cost me money, actually. I did not blanket suitable suitors on but instead read every profile in this age range and explored their interests and personalities.