Not playing the dating game
Think playing mind games with men smacks of unscrupulous femme fatale-style manipulation? The game plan: No matter how badly you want to dial his digits or reply to his e-mails, you're better off curbing your enthusiasm when you're first dating.
"Games are the way we keep romance alive," says Helen Fisher, Ph D, author of . Playing hard-to-get or leaving a little to the imagination allows the woman to be wooed and appreciated and the man to be challenged and intrigued." What makes these courtship contact sports so appealing is that there are no losers and they pave the way to building a relationship that's humming with excitement. Play these five games with him and we promise you'll score.
Absence creates anticipation and a feeling of "If I don't see her now, I'll die." When he calls, "let your voice mail pick up now and then," says Sherry Argov, author of .
"It shows him that you're worth the wait and effort.
Community Q&A In the context of dating games, your love interest is your adversary, and you have to find a way to outmaneuver them in the arena of love.
To keep your love interest interested, follow these guidelines.
To level the playing field, she avoided giving him her cell-phone number so he didn't have access to her anytime, anyplace. By taking your time calling him back, you become a catch, not a convenience.When he'd leave a message on her home line, Laura waited at least a day to call back. The waiting game lets you test his willingness to pursue, adds Ellen Kreidman, Ph D, author of The game plan: When you date a guy you dig and get that urge to share your personal experiences, opinions, history...stop!