Hes asked me a couple of times if I would feel comfortable living there and I think I would.We already told each other we are in love, he met my family NYE (I havent met his) and we are on the same page in terms of what we are looking for… He even asked me if it is something Im looking for in the near future. You can’t be serious that you think this is in any way normal or healthy. Forget about all those stories you hear from friends and on websites or blogs. What could you have possibly developed in 6 weeks that is so profound?He will point to that one gesture to “prove” his worthiness and use it every chance he gets.He works from home most days and sometimes hes in the office on long business calls and when I get there after work Ive had to wait until hes done with his calls to open the door…
He says hes ready for it and has hinted that within a year he would like to be moving forward with that plan which is exactly my wish. Hes taking me on vacay next month to Europe and we just cant wait! While a small percentage of these examples might actually be healthy, the large majority of them are not. You are so caught up in the trappings of this relationship that you are ignoring the blaring sirens.But, what do you think about this closet space and keys situation? And while this situation may sound great feeling the way I feel about him, Im afraid it may ruin what we have or may even make it too comfortable and easy for him (isnt it againts “the rules”? Either somebody’s desperation or loneliness is being exploited or they’re both emotionally unhealthy people who happened to find each other, as most emotionally unhealthy people do. Right now, you’re just so excited that you’ve met a man who not only wants to commit but wants to do it as soon as possible that you’re not seeing this situation clearly. Do you think it’s wise to be discussing children with someone you’ve been dating all of 6 weeks? Who the hell knows what sort of defective DNA he might possibly be carrying with him. ” There are things to be considered, many of which require that you have a clear and strong understanding of your partner’s values and history. You also need to ask yourself how it is possible you don’t think any of this is weird because your warning bells should be clattering so loud that you can’t hear yourself think. But you two are talking co-habitation, possibly merging some of your finances…and children. He’s got a great apartment, he works from home, he’s taking you on a trip, he’s met your family, he’s said the “L” word. And no, I’m not suggesting you do a back ground check. No healthy man is jumping to commit after this short of a time frame. If they do, they’re either really desperate or shady.