Bipolar dating stories
It had everything to do with how I presented myself. I learned from normal dating that telling a guy in the first 10 minutes was a bad idea. One night while sitting on the beach on our third date he shared with me that even though he talks about sex a lot that he’s really a virgin and shared his values, beliefs, hopes and dreams.
So I wanted to protect myself from being rejected…I waited until I knew that I liked the guy. I met this guy and told him nothing over the chatting on the internet…nothing over the phone…and let him get to know me on our dates. We had a lot in common (for people in their early twenties), we had similar backgrounds, interests, playfulness etc etc. I felt comfortable with him so I decided to share that I’m bipolar. I learned very quickly how painful it is to be vulnerable and have someone reject you.
I felt so at ease that I shared some of my stories and what I’ve overcome and my successes. He seemed so happy about me sharing with him and he rejected me. He shared that his sister is living with severe bipolar disorder and that he didn’t want his children to go through that. It was something I did not want to feel again and I was willing to do anything I could to prevent it.
We felt so connected and bonded after revealing these really important things. The next date he told me that he does not want to see me anymore. Therefore, I got in the habit of telling guys on the phone before I even made a date with them.
We just knew that even though we didn’t know each other that we were meant to be together. I panicked because the “relationship” was happening way too fast for me.
The way I thought about it was that if we got to talking and liked each other that if I shared that I am bipolar and they still want to go out with me…then its safe…I won’t be rejected. I ended up dating other guys with bipolar disorder and other psychological disorders that didn’t bother me so much because I truly get it and I know how to respond to it; however, I wanted someone more emotionally grounded and stable than me. Dating While Manic A number of years ago I experienced a self-controlled hypomanic episode and I thought I was out of the woods…but I was wrong. I was completely free to say and do whatever I wanted. I shared with him that I was living with bipolar disorder before we met. Without any effort on my part, he clearly saw that I was thriving and successful in how I live with bipolar disorder and wasn’t concerned at all.
While still under the influence of mania I was really free, I met a guy online. On our very first date we had the “love at first sight” experience.