Advice on dating relationships
My parents advised what they did in their own marriage: “both of you always think about giving 90% to your partner and you both will be very happy.” They meant it’s so important to think about how your partner is feeling, to stand in their shoes, to be giving and compromising, and emotionally generous.
This advice impacted the way I approach romantic relationships in that I allowed for a lot more space, which in turn allowed for less reactivity, more peace, happiness, and respect.If you’re looking for a little guidance when it comes to love, you’ve come to the right place.The Cheat Sheet spoke with eight top relationship experts to get some of their best advice. The best relationship advice I’ve ever gotten, and that I give, is “easy does it.” Too often we get caught up in fear-based needs to control our partner.They also made clear that this only works if you are giving 90%. I definitely think about my spouse’s needs and feelings the majority of the time and try to be compromising.
This pull becomes a destructive compulsion that corrodes the integrity of the relationship.
It replaces respect and compassion with anger and resentment.